Life is not a game. Life doesn’t give you cards. You create the game in your mind. And for this reason you can’t possibly live by anyone else’s rules except your own. Except that, sometimes rules are made by your mind unconsciously. These are what we call limiting beliefs. “Yeaa I play by my own rules” means fuck all so long as they’re not serving your true purpose. This is a place where a lot of unaware “confident” guys are at. Their rules are effectively chosen for them by the pressure of their parents, their peers, their education, the media, and a lot of the time, the pedestal girls they are trying to bang. This all happens unconsciously as the ego matures and becomes bigger and fatter and begs for more superiority – in the fleeting, superficial value sense, the only value the ego knows – in whichever way possible.
Every single person is playing their own unique “board game” in their minds (it will later become clear why the board game is an effective metaphor). So why should we be surprised when the pieces on the board don’t match? And why should we give a fuck about the rules of the next person’s game? Well, you should give a fuck. This is a question of empathy, of which charisma is an extension. The most enchanting man I know is an absolute master of charisma. And for that, regardless of our differences, I will always hold him in the highest esteem. For what he’s taught me, and for what he represents.
Also, this man is able to make almost any woman fall in love with him after just a few minutes of communication.
Know the woman’s game. First, however, in order to generate attraction, you must play by your own rules, demonstrate your own flair, and thus you must stay on your own board game and be conscious of hers from afar. However, when it’s time for comfort, you must step into her board game. This is the essence of comfort. Look around; admire it’s majesticness and its alienness; see the flaws in the rules of her game, and the perfections. Also, see through the proverbial cards she is concealing. They are her insecurities.
Hopefully her ego doesn't look like this.
You can only enter the woman’s world by being fully conscious and present.
Neil Strauss got it half right when he said that picking up girls was a game. Picking up girls is a meeting of games; that is, of minds. To follow through with the analogy of the board game, since I think its construct is similar to the construct of the ego; She first notices the overall attractiveness of the board game ie. how it’s packaged and presented. This is the social(superficial) value you offer her. She then sees the game pieces, which comprise your story: what you have done, what you have, and what you will have. To the ego, this translates as: what you are. Finally she reads the rules, which in the mind sense are your beliefs and boundaries. This translates as who you are.
Having shoddy packaging and presentation ie. making a poor initial impression (your aesthetics, the manner in which you approach etc.) will mean she’ll be less inclined to even want to open the box. There is always room to work on your presentation. Most people work on their fashion, fitness and grooming, which is a great start. Pick-up artists work on their communication skills – conversation, body language, expression – which is an even better start. Be conscious of what you’re presenting to the world on a superficial basis. As David D said, attraction isn’t a choice. Attraction is the portal to her soul, and it starts with your social value.
The pieces represent all of the content in your life. This includes your posessions and the things which you identify with: your house, your car, your job, your hobbies etc. The content also includes your story; the stories of your past and the projections of your future. They are just stories. They are not reality. Reality only exists right now, in the present moment. Stories are content.
Your mind?
The pieces don’t have to be elaborate and complex so long as it provides for an engaging game. Often the most modest games are the most deeply intriguing. Take chess for example: black pieces and white pieces on a black and white board. No bonus rounds, colourful segments nor shiny pieces. Often, so long as the presentation is attractive enough so that she opens the box it doesn’t matter what’s inside providing the rulebook ie. your belief system is powerful enough.
Your rulebook is the game. With a belief system optimised to suit your purpose you can truly access the ethereal promised land of eternal “state” since nothing can happen to affect your state of being. The pure seducer has an endless well of state which is accessed through the surrendering of ego and the full acceptance of whatever happens in the present moment. There are no obstacles in the pure seducer’s life because he offers no resistance to the factual reality of the present moment. This is the key to masterful seduction. You can utilise the ego to it’s fullest potential once you realise what it is and step out of it. Through this you can create the most awesome social value for yourself. You also tap into the endless well of sexual intent since you are aligned with your purpose which is to channel and live through love and its offshoot, sexuality.
For the record: if your presentation is awesome enough, you technically don’t need to give your game’s pieces and rules a second look if you want to get laid. This, however, may result in a shallow seduction limited to girls obsessed with image and superficial value. This explains why even sexually liberated girls need to be “gamed” in some manner (whether taking 5 minutes or 5 hours). There is some realisation that the ultimate bliss of sex can only be reached through an authentic exploration of each other’s games ie. each other’s worldly personas, and if a deep connection is made – each’s beings.
Ironically, there is nothing “zen like” about the masterful type of game which only a man living in zen can perform. He is the man who is fully living for the moment. He is loud and expressive. He can be simultaneously intense and lighthearted, since the intense joy of living arises out of a lighthearted sense that nothing that can happen can possibly be bad. This man is the pure seducer. He dances in and around the matrix of socialdom like a fire-breathing love monkey. His self-esteem is impervious because his sense of self is infinite. The best naturals have a sense of this, typically without being able to define it themselves.
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Life is many things, but it is not a game. It is the materials from which you craft the game that is your mind. In addition to offering infinite resources, life is also the enormous blank canvas. It is the eternal space, the universal consciousness which allows you to create the game in the first place. Some call this consciousness God.
The canvas stretches as far as the eye can see. Whenever you feel like it, you can choose to step outside the board game ie. step outside your ego altogether, and wonder around this wide open, mysterious, mystical space. Inevitably you’ll find answers that perhaps you weren’t even looking for. You’ll forge empowering beliefs that were perhaps beyond your imagination previously. You may even travel far enough to experience a disconnect from the ego. Some might call this the spiritual path.
Or, you can look at your board game (which comprises your ego), and go to work on restructuring the rules and redesigning the game pieces in order to create congruency with your true purpose and thus make life a whole lot more light, fulfilling, purposeful and exciting for you. For this you need faith in the unlimited power/potential/resources that the spiritual path offers, (whilst not necessarily having to traverse this spiritual path at this point in your life), so that any barriers you might encounter you’ll realise are products of your own limited mind. Some might call this the self actualisation path.
Or, you can live inside of your ego. You play your game as if that’s all there is to life. This explains the suffering of the majority in the Western world since they become a victim of their own rulebook. Something will happen in their life which will prompt them to draw a card which commands that they take three steps back. They do not stop to question the rule, their own rule, and how it was built on false perceptions and is self-sabotaging. Do not learn anything as you pass Go. They’re playing the game from the perspective of a game piece, and they cannot see beyond the board. This is a very common way of living. Some might call this the egoic path.
My main motivation for writing this was to get you to stop identifying with your ego – to create a separation and therefore a space through which your being and its purpose can shine through – and to start utilising the ego instead. Once you treat your mind as a tool only then can you tap into its boundless power. Enhanced motivation, intent, enthusiasm, happiness, peacefulness, and capacity for creating and performing are just some of the attributes waiting to be actualised. They are the resources of consciousness, available to all but utilised by so few.